Successful black woman don’t get enough sex and most of them don’t get married, which is more proof to my blog about men making “hoes” their wife. Michelle Obama may have become an archetypal African-American female success story — law career, strong marriage, happy children — but the reality is often very different for other highly educated black women.
They face a series of challenges in navigating education, career, marriage and child-bearing, dilemmas that often leave them single and childless even when they’d prefer marriage and family, according to a research study recently presented at the American Sociological Society’s annual meeting in San Francisco.
I found this article which basically states, that more men are making wives of easier, freakier and more sexually free women, or at least I like to think that is the case. We all know a lot of men think with their ’small heads’ more than they do their big heads. Take Lamar Odom for instance, he kicked it w/ Taraji Henderson and asked her to marry him, she said no! He kicked it w/ Khloe and married her in 2 weeks.
I’m sure I could end the blog here but successful black woman aren’t made of sugar and spice and everything nice. They have some evil in them. Every black female boss I ever had a mean streak. They tend to be married to their career and can’t give the man the one thing he truly needs to stroke his ego. Time. Let’s not forget that men are the new women and things change. Fact is “marriage chances for highly educated black women have declined over time relative to white women.” Mainly because these successful black women don’t wanna be baby mamas. So not only are they single, they are also childless, and die that way.
I found that they feel like I’ll do these “freaky” things to my man, and they don’t get enough practice at them or they feel like things like vehicular fellatio are beneath them. Of course it is, because she’s a lady. Meanwhile chicks all over the globe are doing more things quicker, faster and better. Most men will take a woman w/ the bedroom skills of a porn star over a novice with clout at her job. An OG broke it down to me like this: If you get offered 2 jobs, one w/ benefits and one without which one are you going to take? On the flip side, if you got to hire one person, and one of them already has the skills and the other one you’ll have to train… I mean guess who is going to get the job. Now I’ll give in to the argument that there is a such thing as being too qualified. I mean even I wouldn’t allow Karrine to suck me off, but I digress.
Maybe Black women are just too smart to get caught up in the game of giving it up and not getting called back. Maybe they are just focused. There are things more important that sex, like money and success. Yet, what I find most interesting is this:
“A greater negative reaction falls on them…” Clarke said.
African heritage is devalued compared with European or Asian heritage. African-American females, even with lots of education, do not fetch as much “value” in the marriage market.
That may be a cold way to look at love, romance, and sex, but studies dating back to the 1980s support it.
Of course if highly educated black women felt free to have children outside of marriage, they could still have a family. When some white women make that choice it is often seen as a kind of liberal empowerment.
But according to Clarke, black women are concerned about looking “ghetto.” Public interpretation of our actions matter for everyone, but especially for black women, Clarke explained. “When it comes to the issue of black women and should or should they not make a choice to have a child alone, these women are very much aware that the decision to do it makes people question their class status. We associate single unwed child bearing with poor African-American women.”
And Just in case you were wondering about successful Black men.
Highly educated black men tend to “outmarry” (marry outside race, religion or ethnicity) at a higher rate than black women, researchers say. Think of Harvard professor Henry Louis Gates or Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas. Both married white women.
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