I was having a conversation with my homegirl about what is wife material. It was a very interesting conversation, she believes that Amber Rose is not wife material. She explained that Amber isn’t the type of woman that comes to mind when a man wants to settle down . Me on the other hand, believes that Amber could certainly be wife material.
At the end of the day it’s to each it’s own. I believe all women deserve love and deserve to be married if that’s what they want. Yet my friend hit me with something that sorta killed my whole argument. She said who’s to say Beyonce doesn’t do all the freak ish Amber Rose does, you just don’t know about it because it’s not all out in the open. She’s right, but again I believe so what if it is…
I say all of that to say this, sure you can wife a sexually free you just need a few things to make it happen:
Be secure. In order to wife a sexually free chick you have to be secure in yourself. You can’t accuse them of cheating or even care if they cheat. For one it won’t happen. If you handle things like an adult a healthy relationship can form.
Set Rules. This isn’t a conventual relationship, you would have to set boundaries and rules. So figure out what you like and what you don’t like and make it work. You can do anything if you’re willing to deal w/ the reality of the matter.
Stay Open. Nothing is ever set in stone, you have to be open to things changing and things not being normal. If you can do that a relationship can work.
Don’t Care. If the woman he’s trying to date is really free, he’ll run the chance of hearing a few horror stories about the things she did. Maybe she sucked a few dudes off at once, maybe got caught giving head on a pier, or maybe the entire high school football team ran through her while she laid on red plastic cups on the bed in the kicker’s dorm. Needless to say he’ll hear stories. That was in the past. We all have skeletons in our closet, and our past mistakes are no reason not to love someone NOW.
Business. It’s none of your business. Remember that and never forget it.
Be A Man. The reason most loose women are… loose is because they can’t find a man to make them want to settle down. If a woman loves a guy she loves him, and regardless of who or what she is she’ll be loyal to him.
Check The Time. Most importantly the time has to be right, you can’t wife a “sexually free” woman when she’s not ready to be settle. It’s like a rodeo, some of those heifers are just not ready to be rode and steered into the pasture. Some of them just can’t be broken. When she’s ready to settle down she’ll settle and you can’t force her that’s why other rules are so important.