Four friends and myself decided to hit a popular strip club. Nothing big just doing our monthly strip club visit. I’m always down for some strip club action. But anyways, I couldn’t help but notice that Tate’s (My friend) phone was ringing off the hook … back to back and he wasn’t answering. I put 2 and 2 together and figured him and his wifey maybe having some problems. However, it wasn’t my place to mention it. You know men… we don’t like to put our relationship problems out there. That was between him and his wife. We had a great evening nothing unusual.
Tate Gets Slapped & Spit On
The drama didn’t begin until exiting the club in the parking lot. We were walking to the car planning our next move. I was drinking pretty hard, but I remember trying to decide between hitting the IHOP, Waffle house or another popular night club. However, before we could decide on anything, guess who’s standing by the car and highly piss. If you said Tate’s wife with her ghetto a** sister and cousin, your right!
So me and the other 3 guys jump in the SUV to give them a little privacy. By just taking a wild guess… I would say that Tate is about 6’3”, 210 lbs and athletic build. Therefore we’re pretty sure he can handle himself, right? Yeah, that’s what we thought. His wife immediately started cussing and swearing loudly. I remember Tate screaming “We will talk about this later. I don’t want to talk about it now”. And all sudden she slaps the shit-out-of Tate… He has the scar to prove it.
By now we jump back out the SUV because we kind-of-figure after that Tate may do something to land his ass in jail. And the brother has too many positive things going on to let him go out like that. In process of holding Tate off to convince him to get in the SUV and lets go. His wife somehow grabs his Blackberry and throws it across the parking lot. By this time dude is heated, it took every bit of all four of us to keep him off her. We had just about wrestled him into the truck when this broad starts Spitting. Spitting everywhere all in Tate’s face. In fact some spit had got all over my new Sean John shirt (this was only my second time wearing it). But we finally get the man in the SUV and get out of there-minus the blackberry. I figure he could take the lost on the phone, but it was in his best interest to get out of there as quickly as possible. Afterwards I thought it would be a great idea if Tate spends the night anywhere besides home. I offered him the couch and he accepted the offer.
The Phone Call
The following morning I was awoken to the phone ringing. It was my good friend, Latosha. I vented to her about the incident the night before and ask her opinion on how “Tate should have handled the situation”. She gave me the expected answer.
There’s never a reason to hit a woman. No matter what she does. A man should always remain in control and never hit her. If he feels violated or assaulted by a woman, he should be man enough to walk away and say a prayer. She will get hers in the end.
Then in return she asks me… How would I feel if that was my sister?
If my sister at 5’4” or 5’5” who’s safely at home decides to get in her car and travels all over town searching for a man 6’3” or 6’4” so she can slap the sh!t out of him, spit in his face and bust his blackberry and after that expects him to turn into a Christian on the spot and say a prayer. Then I should be saying a prayer for her…cause clearly she has mental issues.
No! I would never cosign a man beating a woman. However I don’t live in dreamland. I like staying within reality and try visioning the shoe was on the other foot. Is it OK for a woman to lose control in this manner and honestly expect for a man to remain in control even after being assaulted. I know many feel that he should. But is that reality? What would you do… if you were in Tate’s shoes?
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